On February 4, Pastor Katy preaches on 2 Samuel 12:15b-23; 18-33.
There are many causes for grief, but grief is a universal experience. Whether one is grieving a lost possession, or the death of a loved one, our world seems to tell us that we’re allowed to grieve for a period, but then we’re expected to just move on and be over it. As bereavement leave ends, or someone else becomes uncomfortable with our grief, we begin to paint on the fake smiles and try to act like we’ve moved on. King David lost two sons that we know of, and his response to each appears strikingly different. Following the death of his infant son, David seems to just go back to things as normal in an almost cold-hearted manner. Years later when he lost his adult son Absalom, David cried out in grief. We don’t know what was really going on in David’s heart when his newborn son died, but we learn from David that even the same person might grieve differently at different points in life. We learn that there is no right or wrong way, nor predetermined time frame for someone to grieve. Grief is unique to every person and every situation, and granting permission for ourselves and for those around us to fully grieve is both a gift and a necessity.