“Fear of Being Alone and Unloved”

On February 10, Pastor Jim preaches on Genesis 2:15-18a.

15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to till it and keep it. 16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You may freely eat of every tree of the garden; 17 but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall die.” 18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; …”

Though I have been lonely in my life, loneliness is not an everyday issue for me. As an introvert I am comfortable being alone. Don’t misunderstand, I love, like, and enjoy people and need them in my life. Nevertheless, much of the time I’m okay on my own.

At home I’m blessed to have a little out-building that serves as my man cave. I keep my tools and my junk, mainly junk, inside. It’s where I hang out and contemplate the deeper things of life, or watch YouTube. Jan never goes into my cave. Perhaps she simply doesn’t want to know what she might find. Sometimes it gets pretty messy.

In spite of my contentment with solitude I realize that balance is a good rule of thumb throughout life. All of us need a blend of solitude and companionship. Consider the “modus operandi” of Jesus. He did not start his mission alone, but gathered 12 men and a good team of women to follow him. Even Jesus needed a support team.

At the same time he would occasionally go off to a secluded place to be alone to pray. Either way he was connected to others: his friends or God. Where are you in your life? Are you isolated and hunkered in a kind of cave, surrounded by people yet disconnected? Or have you created a healthy balance of solitude and companionship?

Either way, remember what God said in the beginning: “It’s not good to be alone.”